by Elena Era, 19 April 2015

If you stay in a relationship because you are afraid of loneliness, you will never face the difficult parts of yourself. Stay alone, in order not to throw away what the others don’t like but to throw away what YOU don’t like.

If you stay in a relationship because you want to be taken care of, you will never let yourself in the care of Heaven, while staying in the storm by yourself. Stay alone, not because you fatally accept yourself but because you have to strengthen even more.

If you stay in a relationship because you want to be loved, the eyes of your companion will never become big mirrors in order for you to immerse in them. Stay alone, not for stating that you don’t need anyone, but to first learn how to love and then how to be loved.

If you stay in a relationship because you expect your companion to change; you will never understand when your time is up, while waiting for your companion to take the first step. Stay alone, not because you have to change, but to understand that changes are neither dictated nor imposed to anyone from anyone else.

If you stay in a relationship because you have nowhere else to go, you will never find out the flutter of the heart or the chill brought by the dawn, while waiting for the next horizon to appear. Stay alone, not to cry over an unfair life, but to learn to fly out of your safe zone.

If you stay in a relationship because you are afraid of the comments made by your family, you will never learn to be responsible for your choices. Stay alone, not to preserve an image of the “good child”, but to understand that your true family is Heaven and Earth… and again, they will never ask you to justify your actions.

If you stay in a relationship because you need to admire your companion, you will never learn how it is to feel a divine awe for yourself. Stay alone, not to find your own admirers, but to be able to first admire the entire existence of the Universe.

If you stay in a relationship because you just want to have a good time, you and your companion will never explore the depth of your soul. Stay alone, not to look with horror at the abyss inside you, but to learn to grow wings and fly in its depths.

If you stay in a relationship for financial reasons, you will never manage to stand on your own feet. Stay alone, not to become a tragic figure full of self-pity, but to understand that abundance comes from the source that has created the Universe itself.

If you stay in a relationship because you want to do things with your companion, you will never discover your own abilities. Stay alone, not to take a lonely path with heavy steps, but to learn how to walk lightly towards your own horizon.

If you stay in a relationship because you got used of it, you will never discover the new love waiting for you around the corner. Stay alone, not to punish yourself by considering it unworthy of love, but to understand that a relation comes to you when you don’t need it. Then and only then you will be ready to enter a relationship driven solely by love.

If you stay in a relationship because you love your companion, you are free of all commitments.

And everything is well in your world…

Elena Era

(The article was first published in November 2013)

Elena Era lives in Athens, Greece. She is a writer, teacher and healer and the founder of “Home of Healing. To find about more about her and her work please visit her website: www.healinghome.gr

Her book “Ezerstenia – The Awakening of the Second Earth is available through Amazon: http://www.healinghome.gr/?product=ezerstenia-english